My brother Arnold is in town this weekend, and today we went with his friend to the Texas basketball game against Nebraska. As we were leaving the Erwin Center, I heard a very familiar laugh. I looked to my left and saw my ex with two of his friends from Houston and with a girl who I presume to be his new girlfriend. I smiled and waved, but instead of reciprocating, I was laughed at, given looks out of the corner of their eyes, and pretty much ignored. I had no clue he was in Austin, let alone at the basketball game. And of all the doors to come out of, we had to come out of the ones next to each other.
I guess I should back up because some of you may be wondering what the hell happened.
Last month my ex told me that he is sort of dating a girl - perfectly fine. I'm completely over him; we have a friendship that most people think is weird but, for the most part, i works. He was planning on being in town at the time he told me this and mentioned that maybe I could meet the girl. Drama ensued when I asked a question. I was told that he didn't want to be friends anymore and all sort of horrible other things. Needless to say, we haven't spoken in a month.
What upset me the most about seeing him today was how he acted. Laughing at and ignoring me was low and quite disrespectful. I'm not some random girl that he hooked up with one night and then never wanted to see again. I'm not a casual acquaintance. I have been friends - best friends at that - with him for 8 years now. For about 5 of those years we dated. And up until a month ago, we were still close friends.
I knew that there would be no avoiding him. Granted, he lives in Houston, but I figured we would cross paths again given our group of friends. And I knew that I would be civil towards him. Our friendship will never be the same, but at the same time there is no sense in acting immature. So that is why today I extended an olive branch with a smile and wave.
And I got laughed at...and ignored. And at that moment I was crushed. Years of friendship gone as I saw him doubled over laughing at our chance encounter. All I could think about the rest of the day was the look on his face as he laughed. After 8 years, all I got was a laugh and a cold shoulder.
I guess I should back up because some of you may be wondering what the hell happened.
Last month my ex told me that he is sort of dating a girl - perfectly fine. I'm completely over him; we have a friendship that most people think is weird but, for the most part, i works. He was planning on being in town at the time he told me this and mentioned that maybe I could meet the girl. Drama ensued when I asked a question. I was told that he didn't want to be friends anymore and all sort of horrible other things. Needless to say, we haven't spoken in a month.
What upset me the most about seeing him today was how he acted. Laughing at and ignoring me was low and quite disrespectful. I'm not some random girl that he hooked up with one night and then never wanted to see again. I'm not a casual acquaintance. I have been friends - best friends at that - with him for 8 years now. For about 5 of those years we dated. And up until a month ago, we were still close friends.
I knew that there would be no avoiding him. Granted, he lives in Houston, but I figured we would cross paths again given our group of friends. And I knew that I would be civil towards him. Our friendship will never be the same, but at the same time there is no sense in acting immature. So that is why today I extended an olive branch with a smile and wave.
And I got laughed at...and ignored. And at that moment I was crushed. Years of friendship gone as I saw him doubled over laughing at our chance encounter. All I could think about the rest of the day was the look on his face as he laughed. After 8 years, all I got was a laugh and a cold shoulder.
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